A special gift for helping me out

Yeah I’ve been a little MIA recently… for a good reason!


You see… this blog is a part of a much larger project. The project in mind, obviously, is to initially help teens, like yourself, performance at your best! How can I possibly help you out? Well first, I might get inside your world. Figure out what you like. What do you watch on TV? Who do you hang out with? What do you think is cool? And all that helps… to an extent.

But just like a chef works best with the best tools, I require more comprehensive tools to help serve you better. 

So I’m going back to school for my Master’s Degree. In what you may ask? Well this took some time to figure out. I thought I could find a program where I could study performance anxiety, but that doesn’t exist. I went further down the rabbit hole and decided to email some people who are doing what I want to do, and they all pointed me in the direction of “Sport/Performance Psychology”. So ok, cool. That’s clarity.

Therefore in December, I will send out my graduate school applications.

So what does this have to do with you? Well… everything! This sight is FOR YOU. And in order to keep it awesome, I need your help. Whatever value you have received from this blog, whether it’s nothing, or lots! I’d love you to leave comments explaining to me exactly what value you have gained from it. I will compile the best of what I’ve received and send it with my packet to every University I apply to. You will literally be a part of my application process. And of course… a shout out on my blog :). Plus! I will create a custom 15-20 minute hypnosis trance to help you in any part of your life for those who I choose. I will choose 3.

Leave your comments and good luck to the most insightful!



It never goes away… SORRY! So watcha gonna do about it?!

Expose yourself!

6 years ago, I made a commitment to myself.

There I was, looking at my self in the mirror in the tiny room of the cruise boat I was working on at the time, and I told myself, “From this moment on, anytime you are faced with a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable, you are going to face it!”

Basically I decided to get comfortable being uncomfortable, and grow some fucken’ balls. 

Read the above again.

After that my life became CRAZY… in  GOOD WAY!

I started reading books on being confident, and they all said the same thing: “You must put yourself in high stress situations regularly to build a tolerance to that feeling you call anxiety”. 

So I began making a list of shit that scared me:

-Go to a jam session where everyone is better than me

-approaching a beautiful woman surrounded by guys in a bar

-walk around a mall with my finger up my nose for 35min (yeah… I actually did that!)

-Dance in a restaurant to live music when no one else is dancing

-Dress in woman’s clothes and walk down the street in broad day light during a busy part of the day and HIT ON GUYS.

-Start arguments

-Do 5 minutes of stand up comedy

OK, you get the idea. I’m kind of extreme by nature… but I’ll tell you what. Doing the above made me pretty fucken’ fearless. 

You don’t have to go crazy like I did, but once you allow yourself to sit and swim in being uncomfortable… you’ll begin to change the way you experience anxiety. As the Virginia based Cognitive Therapist Larry Cohen says, “Looking at anxiety as our response to perceived danger, the purpose of the anxiety response become obvious: self-protection.”

What happens is that we grow up in such a safe bubble, that anything outside of it is perceived as “dangerous”, so our mind protects us. Well dude, if you’ve ever heard of the idea of “being adventurous”, pop the fucken bubble, and grow some motherfucken balls! (create a list of shit that scares you and do it). Because honestly man, the people who have the most balls (and you know who they are), have the most fun, and yeah, insult some people along the way, but you can’t make everyone happy except yourself.


How to know when to remind your monkey mind to just STFU!

If you’re one of those few teenagers who does lots of self reflection and meditation, you probably know how to control your thoughts better than most your age.
If not, totally cool.
So what happens when you start making up bullshit in your head that you don’t want about the future? You start getting anxious!
I do it too man, it’s cool.
As you find yourself doing that, it’s important to notice which inner critic is helping create these images and as you begin to accept them NOW, you can notice that old feeling of anxiety melt away, can’t you?

In the article below, some of our most dominant critics are explained:


“Presence Under Pressure: A Workshop about Music Performance Anxiety”

“Presence Under Pressure: A Workshop about Music Performance Anxiety” will be held at Carroll University on Saturday, Sept. 21, 2013. It will be from 10 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. in Shattuck Music Center, 218 N. East Ave., Waukesha. This event is free and open to the public.

Nearly all musicians have experienced anxiety while performing. This presentation will examine strategies of seasoned professional musicians, along with the latest research in psychology and neuroscience. Performers of any age and type – musicians, actors, dancers, speakers – are encouraged to attend.

Two distinguished professional clinicians, Don Sipe and Roberta Ricci, will address vocal, instrumental, and theater performance issues. The workshop will include an overview of performance anxiety and strategies on managing it, performance opportunities for Carroll singers and instrumentalists, and a question and answer period with all attendees.

Sipe is an instructor of trumpet at Carroll University and a sought-after performer in the Midwest. He holds degrees in performance and literature from the Eastman School of Music, and was a member of the New World Symphony under Michael Tilson Thomas. He has performed with the Milwaukee Symphony Orchestra, Present Music and the Milwaukee Ballet Orchestra, among others. He will lead the instrumentalist breakout session during the workshop.

Ricci is a guest presenter who has a varied career as performer, teacher, coach and administrator. A graduate of the University of Kansas and The Boston Conservatory, her performance credits include operatic, recital and concert work in Kansas City; Atlanta; Columbus, Ohio; Naples, Florida; Boston and New York. She has taught at Brenau University, Kenyon College, Denison University and the Capital University Conservatory of Music, and her students have won state and national competitions in classical and music theater. She will lead the workshop’s vocalist breakout session.

For more information, contact Lawrence Dale Harper, professor of music, at 262.524.7188 or lharper@carrollu.edu.

How to prepare for a recording session

So imagine right now that you just got called to make a recording with a buddy of yours, and they tell you it’s going to be played on the radio.

If you’ve never recorded in a a studio, this can be a VERY nerve racking high anxiety type of experience for you. How are you going to manage dealing with the nervousness?

A great way is to simply prepare the most you can. Here’s an article about the top call drummer in New York that will help you mentally prepare for what to expect. He was the drummer for the SNL (Saturday night live) band. And by the way, if you make it in New York- you’re set anywhere, so this guy knows what he’s talking about.

It’s a long article so go to the bathroom, grab a bowl of cereal and enjoy!

SNL Drummer Shawn Pelton Shares Recording Session Performance Tips

Stress is good for you? Uh… yup! Or not… which one you gonna believe?


This article kicks ass and rocks my socks. 

You guys these days are so fucken stressed out! And you’re not even 30 yet. hehe.

But what if I were to tell you that AS YOU DECIDE to be HAPPY about getting stressed, you… get…

This awesome article that I want you to read now!





Then tell me watcha think below. Because seriously… it’s all in your head ;).